How do I know when to stop re-writing my talk?

303: #AskSally – How Do I Know When to Stop Rewriting My Talk?

Hey, Movers!

“Sally, I have rewritten my talk 500 times and I’m now super confused each week. What do we do when we are overwhelmed and confused and we’re lost in the content creation process?”

I’ve been here a million times and I completely understand. It’s a very frustrating place to be in, but it is also super normal. 


Listen to this week’s episode to hear what I want you to do!

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Transcript

The question came in and it says, Sally, I have rewritten my talk 500 times and I’m now super confused each week. ACH help.. what do we do when we are overwhelmed and confused and we’re sort of lost in the content creation process, we redundant and redundant, redundant, redundant, redundant, redundant, redundant.

And now we’re like, I don’t even know what I have or even if I like. Whew. I’ve been here a million times. I completely understand it’s a very frustrating place to be in, but it is also super normal. Many of us get stuck in this spot. So here’s what I want you to do. If you get stuck in content creation, hell number one is you.

Stop you. Stop creating you. Stop finessing. You stop rewriting. You stop at whatever version you’re at. That’s the first thing you have to do. More creating. Isn’t going to get you out of it. You’re just digging yourself deeper into confusion. So you have to stop, then you have to step away. You’re going to walk away for a few days.

You’re going to get space for yourself to think about some other things to sort of get out of the obsessive small detail mode. When we’re going to try and get you back into high-level mode. Like the 10,000 foot level is where you really want to. Then, what you’re going to do is instead of going back into the script, I want you to think about your content from that high level and build a high level outline.

So instead of thinking like line by line, by line, by line, I want you to think of chunk by chunk, by chunk, by chunk. that gets us out of this focus on perfecting the script and finding the exact right word choice. And instead thinking about high level flow, do you have the stories that you need at a high level?

Because once you have that, then you can go back in. And pull out the stuff that’s helpful and get rid of the stuff that didn’t even occur to you. When you sit down to make that outline. Cause some stuff will fall away and that’s good. That’s what we want. You’ve gotten too far into the details. We’re going to bring it back to the high level and let the things that don’t serve you anymore, fall away.

Because what often happens is we just like add and we add and we add and we add and we add and we add, and we add at the end of it, we’re just like, I don’t even know what I have in here. There’s something in there, but it’s just, it’s too much. We get overwhelmed, which is totally fair. Once you have that more usable outline, that’s in chunks, then I want you to stand up and go.

Find a loving audience. Even if that loving audience is like your dog or some bunch of stuffed animals, but I want you to stand up and do it from the outline and record it for yourself so that you know what you have, you have some sort of record of what you actually said and pay attention. What, what didn’t you mean?

What brilliant things came out there. And you’re just going to let that inform your way forward, rather than going back to the script. The script now is a reference point for you. It’s not the script that you use going forward. The script is part of the process. It’s not actually the thing. And I want you to think about that.

Like, let the script be useful in its developmental phase, but now when you’re standing up and doing it. We don’t want to focus on the script. We don’t want to focus on getting every word. Right. And being that level of obsessed with the perfection of it. Because when we do that, it trips us up. Then we’re thinking of here instead of being present in the moment, thinking about where you’re going with your words and how you’re going to use that moment to connect with your.

And be of service to them in that moment is so we’re getting out of this. We’re getting out of the pile up and we’re getting back into high level clarity, let some things fall away. we stop creating. We step away, we make a high level outline. We stand up and deliver it and record that. And we let that inform what we actually really need.

What we actually really have. I don’t want you to go back to finish. You’re going to let your body and let what you know right now be the source of your content going forward. Yay. Getting the script, right. Doesn’t matter. Please know that. What matters is connection? What matters is you showing up and being present with the moment and letting go to trust yourself in the moment that’s what we are going for.

Then you can really enjoy it. And that’s really, of course, what is that?

BIG HUGS, 

Sally Z

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